Eric and I got into one huge fight when we were about to ring in the new year of 1999. At the time, we had been married for about 9 months. Looking to have a quiet and inexpensive evening, the two of us headed to a local restaurant for dessert. We knew exactly what we wanted. Chocolate Truffle Crunch pie. The best pie ever known to man! Well, at least according to Eric and me.
We sat down in the booth and told the waitress we’d like two pieces of said pie. She gladly took our order, but within minutes she came back and informed us they only had one piece of that particular pie left.
My husband told the waitress to give us a minute, and we’ll get back to her with our order.
And that’s when the fight began…
Eric wanted me to have the pie, and I wanted Eric to have the pie. Yes, that was our argument. In fact, we ended up ordering no pie at all, and we got up and left the restaurant, mad at the other person! I guess if a couple is going to argue, that’s the kind of argument to have. One spouse is trying to bless the other and vice versa.
But as a new bride, I sure could have learned a lesson on, How to Let My Husband Love Me, and this whole ordeal would have never happened. As embarrassing as it is to admit, this type of argument has happened several times in my marriage. But as I’ve grown as a wife, one thing I have learned is that when I don’t receive Eric’s love (like taking the pie), then it’s like I’m rejecting him. And if I keep rejecting him, he’ll stop showering me with gifts, acts of service, affection, etc. And no wife wants that to happen! Especially not me.
So, do you make it easy for your husband to love you? Here are some questions to ask yourself to find out:
Does he pay you a compliment and you brush it off?
Do you nitpick at the way he does show you love?
Does he offer to do the dishes, laundry, or some form of cleaning, etc. but you don’t like how he does it, so you tell him, “No, I’ll do it myself.”
Or he decides to make breakfast, lunch, or dinner for you or the kids but you don’t like what he’s making or how he’s making it, so you micromanage and correct him while he’s trying to love and serve you?
When he takes you out to dinner, do you complain about everything and don’t even bother to thank him for his kindness and generosity afterward?
“And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.” Colossians 3:17
Today’s Challenge (or throughout the week):
If your husband has done something kind for you, served you in some way, lessened a responsibility, gave you a gift or a break from tending to the kids, or paid you a compliment, etc. then do the following:
1.Be gracious to him when he shows you love.
When your husband gives you a present and it’s not quite what you wanted, tell him thank you for thinking of you! Unlike how I did years ago when Eric bought me a laptop computer for Christmas. Laptops weren’t common at that time. We weren’t surfing the net like we do today and back then no one had even heard of a blog. So, when I opened up the box and found a laptop computer, I said to him, “What am I supposed to do with this?” I certainly could have been more gracious in my response! Instead, I stomped all over his heart with my self-centered words.
2.Accept his love without criticism or correction.
3.Tell him how much you appreciate what he has done for you. Shower him with gratitude and affection.
Receive his love with a heart of gratitude.
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