How to Build a Close Marriage
Today I want to answer the question people actually ask me often.
Okay, Jolene, so how do I actually build a close marriage?
Closeness isn’t a mystery. It’s not luck. It’s built the same way anything worth having is built: one considerate choice at a time. In this episode, Eric and Jolene get honest about what a close marriage actually looks like, from his side and from hers, and why nobody drifts into closeness by accident. Eric shares what makes a man feel valued and why a supportive wife is the secret behind so many successful men. Jolene unpacks what it means for a wife to feel seen, heard, and loved. Then she walks through eight practical ways to build closeness on purpose, anchored in Hebrews 10:24.
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Show Notes
Episode Title: How to Build a Close Marriage
Anchor Verse: “Let us consider one another in order to stir up love and good works.” — Hebrews 10:24
Episode summary: Closeness isn’t something you find at the altar; it’s something you build through specific, repeated choices. This episode walks through eight practices that build closeness over time: consideration, unhurried time, curiosity, repair after conflict, shared meaning, affection, guarding the marriage, and shared spiritual growth.
In this episode:
- Why closeness is stirred up, not found
- Eight practical ways to build closeness in marriage
- Why fighting for repair matters more than avoiding conflict
- A simple challenge to pick one practice and start today
Live a poured-out life for Christ,
Jolene Engle
