Elizabeth George writes a chapter for each verse of the Proverbs 31 woman. She breaks down words, brings in the culture at the time, and gives practical examples and application. I just loved this book and it gave me great understanding into my role as a Godly wife.
What Husbands Wish Their Wives Knew About Men by Patrick Morley
Wow, this book really opened up my eyes to my man! It helped me to understand what made him tick.
The Act of Marriage by Tim LaHaye
The message of the book is the importance of physical intimacy with your spouse. The author also writes about the nuts and bolts of s*x along with overcoming physical issues/limitations. Yes, it will make you blush!
As the weeks, months, and years rolled by, I soaked up just about every bible-based book that I could get my hands on. Now as I look back many years later, it’s like I attended a University for Godly Wives. And being that I was an avid reader many of the authors became my mentors, my Titus 2 women so to speak, and they’ve helped shape me into the woman I am today and I’m so thankful for their advice and biblical insight.
Now I wish I could literally sit by your side and encourage and strengthen you in your journey of becoming a Godly woman and wife, but I just can’t. While I welcome all of your questions I know that I can’t fully equip you and walk with you as an older woman helping you in your marital journey. And writing a marriage blog post from time to time isn’t quite the same as reading a marriage book.
With that being said, I’m finally going to recommend some books that I think might help you. But before I share those titles please know this, I was very hesitant to do so because I’m not always in agreement with what the writer has to say or perhaps I don’t care for the tone in which the counsel has been given. As a teacher of the Word of God, I am accountable to the Lord for what I share with others and I don’t take that biblical admonition lightly.
The only book I agree with 100% is the Bible. That’s it!
But test everything that is said. Hold on to what is good. 1 Thess. 5:21
For someone who lives on milk is still an infant and doesn’t know how to do what is right. Solid food is for those who are mature, who through training have the skill to recognize the difference between right and wrong. Hebrews 5:13,14
This book certainly taught me the biblical role as a wife as well as helped me lay a proper biblical foundation for my marriage. It’s a good book but if you are a non-reader, it is a rather slow read. However, it is rich in biblical wisdom and guidance.
The 5 Love Languages by Gary Smalley
Great book. Very helpful and insightful, but boring. I skipped to the important stuff!
I have read all of Elizabeth George’s books. I guess she was ‘the teacher’ back in the day!
This book brings in the basic premise that men need respect and women need love. If you’re a new Christian or a new bride, the concepts presented will help you on some level but I believe it stops short of growing your marriage to a deeper level of oneness. And, if you’ve been married for awhile but you’re struggling, this will help you with some of your symptoms/problems within your marriage. However, when I read this book, I didn’t feel it presented a deep biblical foundation for a god-fearing marriage. What I got out of the book was if I did ‘this’ for my husband, then I can get ‘that’ out of my marriage. A tit for tat, if you will. I’m more of the mindset of having a surrendered marriage to the Lord. However, when I was newly married I would not have understood that concept so I had to grow in my understanding.
Challenging and deep would be the words that I’d use to describe this book. I think biblically it’s right on point. At the time of this writing you can get this book as a free pdf. Just click on the link and it’ll take you to the website. Be prepared for your head to hurt because there’s a lot of big words in this one! It took me awhile to read it, but it was worth it.
It’s funny, while I was preparing these resources for you, I realized that on my journey to becoming a Godly wife I didn’t read any marriage books, with the exception of The Act of Marriage by the LaHaye’s. I guess I focused on me and my role rather than focusing on what my Beloved should’ve been doing. It wasn’t until I started speaking on marriage that I was looking for marriage resources. Remember, you can only change you!
No matter how many books you read or don’t read, as a wife, keep this in mind: Live for the Lord and please Him with your whole heart. That’s what matters most. And remember, this is a journey of growth, it’s ongoing until the day we die. I’m still growing even as I teach on marriage!
And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him. Colossians 3:17
(Note: I don’t receive any compensation for recommending these books.)
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