1. I am always afraid there is something wrong with me health wise. It’s amazing how easily your mind can make symptoms happen. I am going for a 24 hour holter monitor today because of on going issues that may just be stress & anxiety related.
    I know I need to focus more on God, but some times its just so hard.

    1. Yes, Heather, the key is focusing on God not the fears! This is much easier to type out than to live out.

      Turning to truth will always calm an anxious heart.

      Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:9

  2. First I must say your site is quite inspiring and my faith gets nurtured and boosted every time I read your write ups.

    I can totally relate with the topic of discussion as I battle with fear all the time. Fear of failure, fear of what would happen when am married (presently engaged), fear of loss of job, sickness, death and whole lot.

    Despite reading and knowing the word of God yet I still have a lot of struggle within.

    So, it was such a great relieve reading your article as I hope to apply this and I await reading other people’s comment on how they overcome fear in their lives.

  3. I struggle with fear of comparison, fear of what others will think of me. I’ve been unfairly judged before and I always fear being judged by those same people for everything. My husband reminds me that it’s only what God thinks of me that matters, and that he and God both love me. That’s all I need to focus on, but I still find myself fearing those certain people and what they’ll think and do. It’s hard, and I’m still fighting these fears, but I know God is with me.

    1. Oh so true, Rachel. And it sounds like your husband is a very wise and loving man. Hiding God’s Word in my heart and daily fixing my mind on Him is the only remedy I have found. I have to rinse and repeat, day in and day out.

  4. Marriage fears, child rearing fears, health fears, public speaking fears, comparison fears, money fears, I’ve got them all! While listening to an Adventures in Odessey CD recently, an episode came on about a little girl who was afraid of everything and my oldest said “that sounds like mommy”. Niceeeee. Definitely an area I need to work on because I don’t want to pass on my fears to my children. This is such a great post. I need to write them out! Thanks Jolene!

    1. Oh goodness, Ana, it sounds like you’ve got yourself a battlefield going on in your mind! But it sounds like you’ve recognized your stumbling block! Glad to know what I’ve shared here will help you make some healthy and God-fearing changes! God is able!

  5. I have lived a life of fear, for as long as I can remember. I have no memory before the abuse started, or of not being afraid. I was recently abandoned by my husband of 20 years and I’m terrified of being alone. I want to trust God and go to him, however because of the way he has planned out my life to this point, I just cannot. I am struggling with why he has created me and this life of suffering (PTSD, anxiety disorder, depression) as a result of what others have inflicted. No one I have asked, is able to answer this question.

    1. Oh, PD, I I also have PTSD, depression, and probably more than one anxiety disorder as well, also due to being abused. It was difficult for me to trust God as well, something I still struggle with. I don’t know your exact circumstances (with the marriage aspect) but I do have experience with what you’re dealing with. Praying for you and sending hugs!

  6. Isaiah 41:10
    Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.

    Thank you Jolene for a great post and your ministry !

  7. I love the moments when it’s God who directly leads you somewhere. He lead me directly with to this website and man when you wrote what the Holy spirit was telling you at your church it was everything he was telling me. I don’t have a secret weapon because fear has consumed me inside out. And although I feel like I’m almost completely gone I can feel God saying not yet hold on trust me. He won’t let me be eaten alive but I am crying out for God to come get me because fear has sunken me down low and poured concrete all over so I can’t move thank you for your words Jolene they have been a real life encouragement to my bitter desperate soul

  8. I have been struggling with the enemy telling my lies. I am going through a lot right now. A divorce, 3 children and finances. A times I want to just give up. I live in fear right now. All I want is to know I and my three children will be okay. I want to be happy with the path that has been given to me. I struggle to be happy. I am always depressed and have the “why me” thought in my head. I need God so much right now..

  9. So Inspiring! I so needed this today. I’ve let FEAR control my Marriage and this is exactly what I needed to hear. 4 years ago I found my husband browsing through escort websites and because of Fear it took me about 3 months to confront him. During those 3 months I drove myself crazy looking through credit card bills, bank statements, phone bills etc! it go to the point where it was consuming me all day I did it at work at home, I wanted to find something.. I finally talked to my pastors wife and met up with her once a week to talk and pray and read scriptures this was healing. I finally confronted him and he was honest in what he had been browsing through and promised me it was only browsing and nothing ever came out of it. See, this was during a time when he was recovering from a back injury at home so between him having too much time to himself he found himself bored and depressed. Since I never found any evidence that he ever went through with anything, I forgave him but I still kept consuming my days checking web history, bank statements phone bills etc. I finally knelt down at the altar one day and cried out to Jesus to take this burden from me and I left it at the altar! What a relief! I since have been free of checking through things, the only thing that I’ve been really struggling with is FEAR! Every day I fear “what if” he went on a website or “what if” he did this or that and it’s been driving me crazy. See he works from home now and he has a lot of time to himself so it’s been a real struggle for me because Fear has been controlling my mind and my thoughts.. but thanks to this post in the name of Jesus I give Him my FEAR my negative thoughts and I know that He will take care of me! Thanks Jolene  If any wives have been through this similar struggle & have any suggestions please write back. xoxo

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