1. Hi Jolene – such a good post and full of wisdom. The whole how far to go in marriage is complicated one but God made us, He will guide us and He is using you to help do just that.
    God bless

  2. Jolene, I appreciate and thank you for everything that you put into your posts. I have never left a message before but I check in every day.


  3. Love the post! I am currently reading “Real Marriage The Truth About Sex, Friendship & Life Together” By Mark Driscoll from Mars Hills Church in Seattle. He also has a sermon series on his church website based on the book. His book is similar to what you said and so true. I am so glad to see you writing on this topic that is so often overlooked yet can help us be such a blessing to our husbands. Especially after being so bombarded by the world out there. Miss seeing you.

  4. I had developed much the same logic about marital intimacy. I always say yes to my husband when he pursues me. It’s a choice I have made, and my husband loves knowing I’m always available to him when he wants to be intimate with me. This helps keep us close and temptation at a minimum for both of us. The thing is, even if I wasn’t in the mood, his pursuit of me and my attitude of being intentionally receptive to him nearly always helps me get in the mood (often quite quickly). In fact, we women are designed to be turned on mainly by touch and emotional closeness rather than sight (as men are). It makes sense that we were designed to respond to our husband’s advances. We don’t have to be in the mood beforehand. It’s amazing how God’s plan for marriage and the way He designed us physically go hand in hand.

  5. Jolene, thank you for sharing your life. I pray continued blessings for you and your family. I am encouraged by this post. This is my first time reading your blog and I am coming back for more. Thank you!

  6. Hi Jolene – I have a question a friend asked me that I can’t find an answer for. What do you do when YOU (the wife) desire sex and your husband does not? It is a good marriage, both husband and wife are faithful and strong Christians and she is praying much over this issue, but she is unfulfilled and feels undesired by her husband. This is directly opposite of the situation most women find themselves in and therefore, there is not a whole lot of Godly advice out there. Can you offer any thoughts?

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