1. I thought something was wrong with me that no matter what I was feeling it was always tied back to being afraid that I wasn’t loved. I thought I was crazy! Now I don’t feel as crazy – thank you!

    I’ve started asking my husband what I can do that makes him feel respected and how I can help him out and not do things that really annoy him. So far we’ve made lots of progress so I’m grateful.

    My husband doesn’t read minds either so it can be difficult for me to remember that I have to tell him (he probably won’t ask) what I need. Baby steps….

  2. Hello Jolene,

    This is great the Lord spoke to me through this post such an amazing God he is. My husband has been having a tough time at the moment and i don’t feel he knows how much i respect him so tonight after work i am going to ask him these questions and apply it to our marriage.

    Godbless you xox

  3. I know this was a post from a while back, but I do believe my Abba led me here. Over the past week, I have felt this need burning in me, and I’ve been turning to the Lord to meet this need to be loved. In so many ways he’s assured me of his love for me… but yet this need persists, to be loved by my husband. God has really been taking me on a journey to cultivate honor towards my husband in both myself, in my children, and in the atmosphere of our home.

    And I read this. And my heart went YES! That’s it! God is really pushing me to express this need to my husband. I need to know that he loves me and I need his affection. And I can’t let him off the hook and make this so easy for him. Just as much as he comes to me with a need for sex, I need to come to him with a need for affection and love. So pray for us. I know that my husband hasn’t yet fathomed the love that God has for him, and as our counselor told us, you can’t give what you don’t first have. Pray that I can express this need to him in an honoring way without making him feel discouraged.

    1. I am sooo very glad I read our reply. The comment you said “you can’t give what you don’t already have” hits home. I am getting frustrated with my husband as I “tear down my walls & hand him my heart” and he replies with “what are you talking about ?” Or I asked him what was the last thing he knows God told him in his prayers about us? His response was “I don’t have to tell you that”. It hurt me sooo bad. Please pray for my patience and compassion for my husband as he learns to listen to God. As you said you can’t lead where you haven’t been. Thanks so much!

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