How to Have a Relationship with Someone Who Thinks They Don’t Need You

When Eric and I dated, I loved how he took care of me and listened to me. And I’m sure he appreciated how I cared and supported him. We intentionally took care of each other’s needs as much as humanly possible while we were dating and engaged because our relationship was important to us.

A couple of decades have passed by and we still seek to meet each other’s needs (although imperfectly). But we’ve had to be extremely diligent about doing this because we’re both sinners.

I know for me, if I feel hurt by Eric, I’ll naturally want to emotionally withdraw and remain disconnected from him.

Nurse a grudge.

Put up my walls.

And push vulnerability and humility out of my heart and encourage pride and apathy to take up residence.

In essence, I’m emotionally shutting him out of my life even though I’m a married woman, not a single one. But this path won’t produce the type of marriage I want. And I’m sure no married person would want a marriage like this either.

So, what does a person do when their spouse doesn’t feel they need them?

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Scripture Reference:

Not that we are sufficient in ourselves to claim anything as coming from us, but our sufficiency is from God. 2 Cor. 3:5

Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Ecc. 4:9,10

Live a poured out life for Christ,

Jolene Engle