Remember, You’re Married to a Man–Not a Woman
They don’t understand most things we say to them.
They don’t understand why we get all emotional and why our feelings get hurt.
They are not designed to sit and listen to us talk for endless hours.
They like to fix our problems and situations rather than be a sounding board that is filled with compassion and empathy.
Many are not in tune with the feelings and emotions of a woman, because after all, they are men and God wired them differently.
Here’s a few tips to better your relationship with your man:
- Don’t expect him to respond to you the way your girlfriends do, OR more importantly, the way your Savior does.
- Don’t expect him to always understand you, and don’t fault him when he falls short in this area.
- Don’t expect him to know how to comfort you. As a wife, make it a point to share your heart with him and let him know how he can comfort you. Men are doers.
- Don’t expect him to read your mind. Just because you have been married to him for more than one day that does not mean he knows what you are thinking and feeling on a regular basis.
- Don’t expect him to fulfill all of your emotional and relational needs. He can’t.
- Be mindful of the fact that he does not think and feel the same way you do.
- Extend him grace because He. Is. A. Man., not a woman, and it is not right for us to expect our men to act like a female. (We gotta love God’s grace when it is extended to us, but it’s sure difficult to extend to our men, yet that should be the first place grace is extended on a regular basis!)
Just being aware of these things should bring more harmony and unity into your marriage.
Whether it is today or tomorrow, the following week or next month…. my advice to you to better your marriage is:
Remember, your man is a man. Cut him some slack and appreciate his masculinity, and he just might appreciate your femininity a little bit more!
Live a poured out life for Christ,
HI neighbor…oh good word…especially for young mom’s…yes…pour it out to our First Bridegroom…then we won’t over expect from our husbands.
Blessings to you…
words of wisdom! just stopping by to say hello! Have a blessed day! Love, Traci
So true! I’ve known for years that I need close girlfriends in my life to fill some of the connection time I want to emotionally process. My husband is still trying and making progress, but he knows and I know that it’s different with men. Actually, tonight I’m looking forward to some time with my girlfriends. Yay! Thanks so much for your great wisdom, Jolene. Love your post and blog!
Thanks sweet friend~
So glad to hear that you will be with your girlfriends tonight, Beth. I was blessed to hear that you enjoyed being in my little corner of the internet. 🙂 May the Lord be glorified.
Yes, Yes, Yes! I have learned that when I have had time to process and I SHARE my heart with my husband he really wants to help me and to take the load off! What a blessing! Thank you for continuing to poor out your heart and sharing your God given wisdom! You are a true blessing!
Thank you sweet friend!
This made me laugh. Just the other day, I was out with my husband and his male co-workers. I asked my husband if so-and-so was married and he didn’t even know! I told him, “guys don’t know ANYTHING about each other!’ He agreed with me.
Hmm…. you must have been in the car this afternoon when Sue and I had a conversation about this very thing. You’re right – we (men) just want to fix it! 🙂 We’ve gotten to the point (after 35 years of marriage) where I simply ask “Am I fixing or or just listening?”
Thanks for stopping by!
35 years of marriage…good for you guys! It’ll be 14 for us next month. I, too, tell my Beloved that I need him to just listen or I need him to help fix my problem when I come to him to talk 🙂 It’s a simple concept and it makes marriage that much more wonderful.
Good to hear from you friend,
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