It’s the most simplest concept you’ll ever hear, yet it’s the most difficult thing to do on a daily basis!
Die to self.
Yep, that’s it. I know it’s not what you wanted to hear. (Perhaps you were hoping the answer would be a new husband? Well, of course I’m not going to advocate that, but I can teach you how to influence him!) Truth be told, it’s not what I want to hear sometimes as well. In fact, there are times when the Holy Spirit is convicting me and telling me to do something and I just want to stick my fingers in my ear and say, “la, la, la…I can’t hear you!” But I know I’ll be blessed as a result of that whole die to self thing!
Die to your pride.
Die to your self-centered rights.
Die to your sense of entitlement.
“A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that you also love one another. By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.” John 13:34, 35
So what does love look like? Is it just warm fuzzy feelings and romantic notions that you once had for your man. No, of course not. Love is an action and the best way to express it is by showing your husband how you love him.
“So then, those who are in the flesh cannot please God.” Romans 8:8
Ouch! That’s a convicting scripture, isn’t it?
For you, brethren, have been called to liberty; only do not use liberty as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another. Galatians 5:13
You can’t die to self all on your own. You need the help of the Holy Spirit to give you strength as He moves you toward righteousness.
I say then: Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh. Galatians 5:16 For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; and these are contrary to one another, so that you do not do the things that you wish. Galatians 5:17 Okay, now I’m feeling a little bit better!
Now how about you, friend. Are you willing to die to self to better your marriage? I know you’ll be blessed if you do!
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