Confronting Him in Love

It’s never easy confronting another person regarding how they are treating you, however, sometimes in marriage, confrontation is vital.  But, biblically speaking, confronting one another must be done in love. Here’s one woman’s situation…

Dear Jolene,

My husband has a chronic illness. We are newlyweds and I knew going into the marriage that I would be his caretaker when he was not well.  My husband also has anger problems. We talk about them a lot and it is an open discussion between us that his anger hurts me deeply. I feel like for the past year that we’ve been married that I have been patient, loving, and understanding of his illness and open with him about his anger problems. However, the two often go hand in hand. He doesn’t feel well, and is already prone to anger, so when he doesn’t feel good he becomes even more susceptible to it. I try to forgive him every time because I am trying desperately to be there for him in his weakness for we are one. I don’t know where to begin.

I know I need to sit down and say something to him, to have a conversation, but I feel so unprepared.  I fear his anger more than anything in this world. I fear that he will find me foolish and feel like I am accusing him of something that he thinks I am blowing out of proportion because I am an emotional/sensitive woman.

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Scripture references from the podcast:

Isaiah 1:17 says: Rebuke the oppressor.

2 Thessalonians 3:15 says: Yet do not count him as an enemy, but admonish him as a brother.

Luke 17:3 says “Take heed to yourselves. If your brother sins against you, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him.

1 Timothy 5:20 says: Those who are sinning rebuke in the presence of all, that the rest also may fear.

1 Cor. 13:5 Love is not easily angered.

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Live a poured out life for Christ,

Jolene Engle