The Patient Wife
Wait on the LORD; be of good courage, and He shall strengthen your heart; wait, I say, on the LORD! Psalm 27:14
I should really title this post, The Wife Who Cries, because that’s who I was the other day as hot tears ran down my face. My circumstances just set me over the edge and the strong wife my husband is use to just went straight out the window. My composure was gone and I couldn’t keep myself together.
I was no longer patient in my circumstances and thus, no longer patient with my husband. I wanted things to change in my life- obviously for the better, but instead, they changed for the worst. I wasn’t a happy camper and I couldn’t hold the tears back any longer. No matter how much I fought to keep them in, they just gushed out. My outlook caused me to mentally and emotionally swirl down into a pit of depression and I knew I wasn’t going to get out of that pit anytime soon. (It’s a pit I’m all too familiar with!)
But in spite of my situation, I kept doing the following things regardless of how I felt inside because I knew this course was the only way to change my thought process.
- I stayed in the Word.
- I prayed.
- I listened to praise and worship music.
- I attended Bible study and church.
I realized as I went through this trial that not only was I impatient with my husband, but I was impatient with the Lord and what He’s doing in my life. Arrogant attitude, isn’t it?
Sometimes we want to fix our situation or maybe even fix our guy, but sometimes God will send us through a trial to fix us- to make us more reliant on Him and more satisfied in Him.
The last few weeks as I was reading my Bible whether it was during my devotions or going through my Bible study, all I saw was the word, wait. It was a constant theme that the Lord put before my eyes.
“Wait, daughter. Wait on Me”, were the words He kept speaking into my heart.
Wait on the LORD, and keep his way. Psalm 37:34
It’s difficult to wait and be patient because this virtue implies trust. As I woman, I naturally want to control a situation so I won’t experience any pain or loss in my life, yet, this pursuit won’t produce a patient and trusting heart- which are two very important ingredients needed for a fulfilling marriage.
When I seek to fix my husband, in essence, I’m looking to control him so he’ll fit into my world and my expectations.
When I purpose in my heart to be a patient wife, I not only bring honor to my guy, but I bring honor to the Lord. What I’m conveying to the two of them is that I trust them.
A patient wife will remember three very important truths:
- God is not finished with her yet.
- God is not finished with her husband.
- God uses our circumstances and trials in our lives to mold us into the image of His son, Jesus Christ.
These 3 truths are quite beautiful in a blog post 🙂 , but when they are applied to our lives it deeply hurts our flesh, and we’re not happy about that, now are we!
But don’t lose sight of your goal in marriage… The goal in life for a Christ-centered wife is to become more like Christ!
Being confident of this very thing, that He who has begun a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ. Phil. 1:6
Choose to be a patient wife, friend, after all, we like it when our guys are patient with us, right?
More posts in the Becoming a Christ-Centered Wife series:
- The Content Wife
- The Confident Wife
- The Wife Who Bases Her Life on the Bible rather than Her Emotions
- The Wife Who Looks at the Cross
- The Faith-Filled Wife (Part 1)
- The Faith-Filled Wife (Part 2)
- The Wise Wife
Live a poured out life for Christ,