Don’t Put Your Best Foot Forward Before Marriage
He nearly choked on what I asked and then proceeded to laugh out loud. I, on the other hand, didn’t understand what he thought was so funny, after all, my foot itched and I thought he might know what was wrong with it.
Now I realize if I had some Feminine Etiquette Coach by my side she probably would have rebuked me in that moment because I wasn’t acting all proper. No, I wasn’t acting proper, I was being myself. After all, I was seated by a man that I saw as friend, not someone I was trying to impress by putting my best foot forward, rather, just my athlete’s foot!
|I just squealed with delight when I saw this picture of married feet!|
When a possible suitor comes along, don’t try to impress him. Don’t put your best foot forward, but instead be as comfortable as you are. Be fully real, normal, and relaxed because that’s how married life is going to be. Keep in mind that your future husband will see you waking up in the morning with bed hair as well as smelling your morning breath, he’ll also see you when you’re sick, and when you’re grumpy and lazy, and perhaps he’ll even see you during childbirth.
Now I am not saying don’t brush your teeth or comb your hair when you go out with him, but don’t obsess about your outer appearance and be all dolled up every time you get together with him, either. Because that’s just not real life. And if or when you become a mom, babies puke on you and keep you up all night, and body parts become, well, let’s just say different.
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. Proverbs 31:30
You want him to fall in love with you; the inner you, even if the outer you happens to have a little athlete’s foot!
And for those of you that have a tainted past similar to mine, don’t allow the Enemy to condemn you for your past sins either. If your relationship is moving towards marriage, then be honest with your man. Don’t hold things from him because you feel he won’t accept you. If that’s the case, then he’s not the one for you anyways. You want a man that will love you the way Christ loves the church. So if he can’t forgive you for what you did years ago or maybe even what you did last week depending on your situation, then don’t think for one moment that he’ll be forgiving towards you during your marriage, because he won’t!
Yes, what joy for those whose record the LORD has cleared of guilt, whose lives are lived in complete honesty! Psalm 32:2
Love keeps no record of wrongs. 1 Corinthians 13:5
Oh, and I forgot to mention one last thing to ask yourself about your potential husband…
Would you still want to marry him even if you could never change him?
Other posts in the Smitten for Him Single Series
4 Things You Need to Do Before You Meet Prince Charming
To Date or Not to Date, That is the Question
What Not to Settle for In Your Future Husband
The #1 Purpose of Marriage
Live a poured out life for Christ,
Cute story, you obviously felt very comfortable with him and it sounds like you have a lot in common too.
Thanks Sis. I wanted to be accepted for me; warts and all, along with all sorts of baggage! I didn’t want to portray something or shall I say, ‘someone’ different than who I really was.
Jolene, what a wonderful series!! I will have to go back and read all of the posts!
Thanks Brenda. May the Lord be glorified through it.
fabulous post!!! 🙂
I found you through titus 2sdays link up and I’m glad I did! I’m 3 and a half years married, but this is very valuable advice for singles!!! 🙂
So nice to ‘meet’ you and blessed to hear that you came on over from the link up! May the Lord’s words go forth for many single women to hear His love for them.
What an attention-getting title and cute story about your athlete’s foot! And your message is so good too. I never thought of it from that angle, but it’s great advice.
I truly enjoyed this post. I have been courting my best friend for over 2 years now and we’ve come a loooong way. 😀 Now we can talk about this annoying pimples, foot fungus, stomach problems and he definitely has seen me in some of my worst moments! 😀
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