So back to my single friend (and any mama who’d like to share these truths with her kids)…
- What if you had someone in your life who knew exactly what to look for in your future spouse? Would you listen to that person?
- And what if that person also knew exactly what you needed in your future husband? Would you take their advice regarding their choice for you?
- And lastly, what if that person knew exactly where to find that person? Again, would you heed their counsel?
Perhaps you can call this Person a Matchmaker?
As Believers, it is a common thing to hand over so many aspects of our lives to the Lord. For example, we pray for the Lord’s will for what job we should have, or where we should live, or what school we should go to, etc. But sometimes it seems like we stop short of asking for the Lord’s will (His choosing) for who our spouse should be. Instead, we make our 2nd most important life decision (the 1st being that we’ve given our heart to the Lord) based off of lust and emotions. Doesn’t that system sound absolutely ludicrous?
The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it? Jeremiah 17:9
Well, I propose a brighter path for the choosing of a spouse and this one is based on God’s choice.
“Blessed is the man who trusts in the LORD, and whose hope is the LORD. Jeremiah 17:7
Let’s take a look at the Lord’s wisdom regarding what not to settle for in your future spouse. My prayer for you is to let God qualify or I should say in this case, disqualify, a potential suitor.
Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? 2 Cor. 6:14 (NKJV)
I like the New Living Translation on this verse as well:
Don’t team up with those who are unbelievers. How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness? 2 Cor. 6:14
And you shall love the LORD your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind, and with all your strength. This is the first commandment. Mark 12:30
Better is the poor who walks in his integrity than one who is perverse in his lips, and is a fool. Proverbs 19:1
For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Ephesians 5:23
He is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways. James 1:8
We should no longer be children, tossed to and fro and carried about with every wind of doctrine, by the trickery of men, in the cunning craftiness of deceitful plotting. Ephesians 4:14
For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word. Eph. 5:25,26 (NLT)
And let the wife see that she respects her husband. Ephesians 5:33
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. Ephesians 5:22
Prior posts in the Smitten For Him Single Series:
4 Things You Need to do Before You Meet Prince Charming
To Date or Not to Date, That is the Question
Up next, The #1 Purpose for Marriage.
Live a poured out life for Christ,