1. I am so sorry for your loss. The grief over losing a child is intense. But, thank you for sharing how you and your husband prayed through the process. Right now, my husband I an are experiencing grief over rejection of a child. I know how I am feeling and sometimes I have been so consumed with sadness that I have overlooked how my husband feels. Yesterday we prayed together and talked quite a bit and it truly helped each of us. I want to love him with compassion through this. He may seem all strong and non emotional, but I know on the inside, his pain is as deep as mine. Thank you for helping me to remember that.

    Blessings, Joan

    1. Joan…grief is a tough emotion to work through but I am glad you and your husband are talking. That is huge in helping to heal. Even better, you prayed together bringing God into the situation and trusting Him for comfort, peace and wisdom. Thank you for sharing your story and I will say a prayer for you both as well.

  2. What a beautiful post and my heart resonates with everything written. Our son, Thomas went to be with the Lord on December 10th, 2010. He has a twin brother, James and an older sister, Alana. Since his passing, we have had a surprise baby boy, named Ezekiel.

    The pain of his death has been unlike anything I have ever experienced. During that first year of grief, I felt very certain that our marriage was going to fall apart. There was such anger, sadness, isolation, and frustration. With God’s help, a wonderful counselor, and a good foundation of love for each other, we have made it through so far.

    We struggled with infertility for 2 years prior to the boys and some ugly habits had formed during that time and our marriage was a breeding ground for disrespect and separation. The stress of Thomas’ death almost broke us.

    I encourage everyone who has had a child pass away, to seek counseling. Just to talk through the pain, the situation, and any marital issues that crop up. Be proactive in your marriage, even when you feel you have nothing to give. Grief is exhausting in every area of life.

    1. Janna….Your story really tugged at my heart. I am glad to hear your marriage survived not only the passing of your son but all the uglies that plagued it. You are right in that we must be proactive for our marriage and that may include counseling to help sort everything out. Thank you for sharing your experience.

  3. I am a passive reader of this blog, some posts resonate more than others. This one is very near to my heart.
    Our son was born asleep.. he was a beautiful and very much wanted.
    The grief we feel will always be with us.
    Neither of us grieves more or less and we lean on each other and our faith together as one.
    What we found was the strengths and dependence we have in each other.
    What I am unable to cope with, my husband does and vice versa. Desisions that needed to be made were shared and not fought against. Priorities were second to our greif. It has become a very private pain between us and we hold each other together through this.
    It is not a club you wish anyone to join.

    1. Karley…I wouldn’t wish this journey on anyone either. It is a difficult one as you personally understand. And you are also right in that the grief never completely leaves you. However, it does become more bearable and that is God’s grace and comfort which is much needed when grief enters our life. I’m grateful you stopped by today and shared your journey. It touched my heart.

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