This is not a popular topic to discuss. In fact, it will make you feel uncomfortable if you’re in this situation today.
Living with your significant other before marriage sure is a common practice in our culture. In fact, before I gave my heart to the Lord I used to live with my (at the time) boyfriend way back when.
But God’s Word is clear on this practice of sexual immorality…
It’s called sin. Fornication to be more exact. Those are not nice words to hear, but they are Truth. And the Truth is what I share here regardless of how it will be received.
Therefore put to death your members which are on the earth: fornication, uncleanness, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry. Col. 3:5
and the New Living Translation…
So put to death the sinful, earthly things lurking within you. Have nothing to do with sexual immorality, impurity, lust, and evil desires. Don’t be greedy, for a greedy person is an idolater, worshiping the things of this world. Col. 3:5
One woman wrote in sharing her situation about living with her man. You can see my response to her via my video.
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If you’re unable to view the video in your email feed, you can see it here.
Perhaps you just got saved and you’re still living with your guy? Well, you’ve got a decision to make. A decision that matters to your soul and your spiritual growth.
You need to talk with your guy and let him know you want to follow and please the Lord with your life, and following the Lord in this situation requires one of two things from you…
A) Either you/he moves out.
B) The two of you get married. (If he’s not a Believer, read this post.)
So I say to those who aren’t married and to widows—it’s better to stay unmarried, just as I am. But if they can’t control themselves, they should go ahead and marry. It’s better to marry than to burn with lust. 1 Cor. 7:8-9
If he scoffs at your request, then that’s a clear indication that he is not committed to obeying the Lord. That’s a red flag for you because your man loves himself and his sin more than he loves the Lord. Now a new man in Christ would be open and sensitive to obeying the Lord. A man who is not truly saved couldn’t care less what God thinks about him.
You don’t want your spiritual well-being to suffer as a result of this sin. Being right with God is more important than being with some man that you don’t have a Biblical covenant with.
The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results. James 5:16
If you’re living in habitual, unrepentant sin, our God is so holy that he can’t hear your prayers.
It’s your sins that have cut you off from God. Because of your sins, he has turned away and will not listen anymore. Isaiah 59:2
Choose today whom you will serve. You and your flesh? Or your God?
Live a poured out life for Christ,
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