1. Oh my… I totally hear what you meant by leaving and he’s still in bed 🙂
    As it is right now, I have to work, there are bills to be paid and he don’t make enough. I don’t mind it though. What I did mind was after we got married I was working 60 hrs a week and in the winter time he (landscaper) would get laid off and literally do nothing the whole entire day!
    After about 3 years of that and some serious strain on our marriage, I quit a job I really enjoyed and began cleaning houses. That enabled me to cut my hours to 1/3 of what they had been and to still make the same amount. What a blessing that has been!
    However, I was very adept at keeping a home when we got married, so there was none of the normal learning curve a new wife has in that area. 🙂

    1. Hi Kendra,
      So blessed to hear that you figured out how to find a solution to your problem so your marriage wouldn’t suffer! To God be the glory.

  2. I think that what eats at many women’s hearts is how women in the workfield are viewed today in our culture. It is a shame. So many women that I’ve come across express guilt that they want to be at home to raise their children or be a homemaker. Others feel guilt wanting to work outside the home. It can be a vicious circle. I think what we need to remember is that being a “home manager” (like that term?) IS a job and a very worthwhile job at that! I love reading over Proverbs 31 and letting it sink in how important that wife’s role was and how much she helped her husband by running the home. Thanks for sharing your story!!

  3. That’s awesome that you had the courage to become a wife and to change your work situation at the same time! thanks for the great post & for hosting & God bless!

  4. I had no idea that I had such a strong desire to stay at home until I got married. It was so bizarre to me that I was so good, and passionate, in my career and yet I was feeling such a strong pull away from it.

    1. Mikah, isn’t interesting how we are so easily conditioned by the world, but God stirs in our hearts to want to pour into our husbands, children and homes?

  5. My husband and I are both committed to our home but he’s the neat one so he washes the dishes and makes the bed.

  6. Can you tell me where you read in the Bible that the husband is to provide for his family and that the wife is to help her husband, take care of the home and the children? Want to look at that for my own reflection. I have been the breadwinner in my home since our marriage 9 years ago. My husband works now but does not make enough for the four of us to live on, and before this job he was in college and the graduate school.

    1. Hi Monica,
      In Genesis 3:17- And to the man he said, “Since you listened to your wife and ate from the tree whose fruit I commanded you not to eat, the ground is cursed because of you. All your life you will struggle to scratch a living from it.
      1 Timothy 5:8- But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.
      For the woman…
      The older women are to admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed. Titus 2:4,5
      Proverbs 31:10-31 passage
      She watches over the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness. Proverbs 31:27

  7. But what if my fiance IS the one who likes to keep the house clean and makes the bed and does the dishes as soon as he eats? What if I WANT to work because I want to do something good in this life? Why does it have to be this odd thing that I want to be a Godly wife and make money for our family at the same time. I feel like you’re almost condemning wives who choose to work. Like this will always cause problems and staying at home never will. I can tell you right now, staying at home would create a very large amount of bitterness, resentment, and depression in my heart. I am not trying to be negative or argue. I am just trying so hard to follow God but I don’t feel like all these things that you say are “natural” for men and women to feel apply to me and it makes me feel so incredibly lost.

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