Day 10: 5 Ways To Encourage Your Husband To Lead

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5 Ways to Encourage Your Husband to Lead

Throughout scripture we see how we are structured, God – Man – Woman – Children. Man is not more important than Woman, we just have different roles in accordance with God. As read in scripture, the man is the “head of the wife” {1 Corinthians 11:3}, but we are suppose to submit to one another out of reverence for Christ {Ephesians 5:21}. Basically, the Man is charged with leading his household toward Christ. This is not always easy and attainable because our husbands are not perfect. But, as wives, we are charged to be our husbands helpmate.

An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. — Proverbs 31:10-12

I’m not saying that I have this down, because I feel like I am constantly failing in this area of encouragement to my husband, but I am striving to be his helpmate and biggest fan. Here are some practical ways we can encourage our Husband’s in their role as spiritual leader of our homes.

1. Praise Him: Verbally and publicly. For past, present and future. Let him know that you think he is a great leader and when appropriate, praise him in public for his efforts in leading. Praise him for what he has done in the past and present. Let him know you feel confident he is going to lead your family in the future. Example: “You are going to be a great dad, our children will learn so much from you biblically”.

2. Thank Him: Make sure to thank him when he is leading you or when you notice efforts he is making. Your acknowledgement of his efforts go a long way.

3. Ask Him: For advice and for wisdom. I think its easy to think that you “know” what you husband will say or advice, but “ask him” for his advice. You might get the response you were thinking, but you might be surprised and he might be encouraged that you asked.

4. Follow Him: Submit to his leadership and decision making. This also means respecting him and honoring him. Read this post about practical ways to respect your husband. By no means am I saying that you should not have an opinion or voice, I am simply saying to let your husband take the lead by not solving every problem yourself.

5. Pray for Him: To me, this is the most important. I firmly, irrevocably believe in the power of prayer. Only God has the power to change and mold your husband into who He wants him to be. Pray for your  husband’s walk, integrity, strength, fears, triumphs, failures, thoughts and actions. Pray for God to teach him how to be a good Husband and leader for your family. Also pray that you would be his helpmate, partner and source of encouragement.