1. Hi Jolene – such a great post and very timely for me. My greatest insecurity is my worth. I know my worth is in the Lord, but every now and then the enemy sets about proving my lack of worth and it sometimes takes me a while to cotton on to his tricks. I’m adding this post to my Tab on my blog, favourites, so I can always come back to it and others can find it too.
    God bless

    1. Oh yes, Tracy, the Enemy has a way of tearing us down, doesn’t he? Continue to set your mind on the things of the Lord so you can be filled with knowing who you are in Him!

  2. When I was growing up, my parents constantly praised me and my other 4 sisters for things that we accomplished or physical attractiveness or for intellect, but not really for just being who we are. I know my parents loved us all the best way they knew how, but we were a non-Christian family. So as I grew into a young lady and into womanhood, I relied on my so-called intellect or so-called physical beauty to get me places, but my narcissistic bubble soon popped when I realized that there were others on this universe way better than me in so many areas.

    So I tried really hard to measure up to a standard that was set for me early on and I began to fail measurably. When I got lower grades they were ‘surprised’ that I didn’t do better, but yet I was still made to believe that I was still better than everyone else. I was so confused!

    I too made some poor choices as I grew into womanhood, trying to find someone, anyone who would just like me for me. I tried really hard to please everyone believing that that was expected of me, and in the process lost my identity. Thank God that He saved me at 24 years old, and I know now that I’m complete in Him and my identity rests in Him.’ He also gave me an amazing husband who loves me for me. He’s always said to me ‘just let me love you.’ But sanctification is a process, but I believe Him and His Word when He says ‘I’m working in you’ and ‘I will complete that which concerns me’. Sorry for such a long comment and thanks for listening. Betty

    1. Betty, thank you so much for sharing your story! I know many will be blessed by hearing what you went through. I am so blessed to hear that you have found your worth in Jesus Christ!

  3. Jolene, I know this is a struggle for SO many women. I pray this excellent post will help them to understand that their worth comes from the Lord… not ANYTHING this world has to offer. If the Lord Himself took the time to create you, and we know that HE does not make any mistakes… then you must be perfect in His sight. I leave you with this…

    Psalm 139:13-18 For You formed my inward parts; You wove me in my mother’s womb. I will give thanks to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Wonderful are Your works, And my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from You, When I was made in secret, And skillfully wrought in the depths of the earth; Your eyes have seen my unformed substance; And in Your book were all written The days that were ordained for me, When as yet there was not one of them. How precious also are Your thoughts to me, O God! How vast is the sum of them! If I should count them, they would outnumber the sand. When I awake, I am still with You.

    1. Yes, Jason, sooo many women struggle with this! You are so right about how the world has nothing to offer us. We are complete in Christ Jesus!

  4. Wonderful post… please consider linking up to Spiritual Sundays #2 (goes live on Monday 21st May). I would be honoured to have you join me and link this post there.

    Wendy @ ECTaS

  5. Hi Jolene,
    Thanks for sharing this very personal post that touches on many insecurities that many of us have. And thanks for sharing such great tools/insights and thoughts of dealing with those insecurities. I’m glad you linked this to B&BB.
    I’m writing this on a train from Budapest, Hungary to Zagreb, Croatia. I don’t have internet, but I opened up your blog post before the trip so I could read it while traveling. And I’ll paste my comment into a comment box when we arrive. So I’m reading your blog and thinking of you across the globe! And I’m praying you have a blessed week.

  6. Jolene,
    Sadly, my mother saw me as a “threat” to my dad’s love for her. You see, dad left for the Pacific right after Pearl Harbor and never came home until the war ended. They were married a month later and I was born 11 months later, way to soon for my mother to have enough “alone time” with the man she loved so and had waited for those 5 long years during the war. My father adored me and I always knew I was loved by him, my grandparents, but emotional scars run deep as you know. When mom passed on, I did her ulogy, talked about how she cared deeply for others, her family, friends, worked in the church because all that was totally true. It was just me that she rarely could share her love for. At the end of my sharing, I turned toward the casket and HE filled me with such abundant love for my mother, burned away the last remains of unforgiveness in my heart for her unloving ways. Because I wanted so desperately what she could not give, I was a better mother to my own three children them perhaps i would have been otherwise. I told them every single day, they were loved, they were unique in Him, they could be anything they wanted, and they followed their dreams and I am so proud of them. I am proud of you too, for being you and for posting this beautiful testimony to His love for you and all of us who come to Him. Blessings.

    1. Lynn,
      Thank you so much for sharing your story. Please know that my heart hurts for what you went through with your mother and I’m blessed to hear how the Lord ministered to you at your mother’s funeral! Thank you for your loving words of encouragement as well!

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