What’s a Wife to Do When Her Husband Blames Her for All Their Problems?
How convenient for a husband to place all his marital problems on his wife’s shoulders. Perhaps if he took responsibility for his own sin and made an effort to lead and love his wife the way scriptures command him to, then he wouldn’t have a bunch of marital issues. Just sayin’.
But, since I live in the real world, I know not all husbands will man up and own their sins due to their pride. Just like I know not all wives will girl up and own their sins. The cold hard truth is that we are pride-infested people and the longer this sin goes unchecked in our lives, the more damage it will do to our relationships. All of them. Not just our marriage.
Whether your guy is a believer, barely believing, or an unbeliever and he’s blaming you for all the woes in your marriage, take a listen to what my husband and I have to say regarding this issue.
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Scripture References:
Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results. James 5:16
A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Prov. 15:1
Dear brothers and sisters, if another believer is overcome by some sin, you who are godly should gently and humbly help that person back onto the right path. And be careful not to fall into the same temptation yourself. Galatians 6:1
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How to Avoid the Blame Game in Marriage
How to Restore Your Marriage After You’ve Been a Horrible Wife
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Jolene Engle
Wow! Got this problem going on in my Marriage now. I think it is the need to grow up and lack of a that godly example growing up (alcoholic father). I am just giving it to the sweet Lord above and being still. Stinks, we are all suffering but I am so tored of fighting and the frustration. I know God is at work through small glimpses of positive behavior.
Being still and knowing HE is God 😉
Hi M,
Glad to hear that you can see God working in your marriage. He is faithful! Every marriage needs a healthy dose of grace and truth. Give your guy grace when he needs grace, and confront him with truth when his actions are offensive to you.
I just have to say this blessed me immensely. I have made almost all of these points to my husband & fought the shame he tries to put on me for these same points (telling me I’m wrong).
Thank you for this godly point of view.