When You Don’t See Eye to Eye with Your Husband
In marriage, it’s very common to not see eye to eye with your husband on every issue that’s presented in your life, even if both of you are Believers. This is the case for this one newlywed wife.
Here’s her story…
Dear Jolene,
My husband just told me yesterday that he wants us to take gun shooting classes so that he can get a permit to have a gun to protect us and our future family. We have only been married since Sept 2012. When he revealed this to me, I became immediately irate, extremely scared, and dismayed by the thought of even having a gun in our home. I kept my internal anger to myself so that I would not allow any corrupt word to come out against my husband. Three weeks ago, both of our cars got broken into, in the middle of the night, so that is why I sensed that he would want a gun. But as we discussed the topic, he stated that the robbery was not the reason, but that he always wanted a gun to protect his family and that he grew up on the farm with his grandfather and his grandfather taught him how to shoot in the woods so he has no fear at all with guns. His reasoning sounded selfish, but I also know that is not my husband’s intentions, he has always been family oriented and he has always done everything in his power from God to protect us thus far. I told him that I am terrified of guns. My biggest fear is that if we have children, one of them may find the gun and shoot it, killing themselves or someone else in the home!!! We said that we will pray about it and lay out the pros and cons. My question to you Jolene is: have you heard of a situation like this before? And how do I lovingly submit to my husband’s leadership in this area?
~a terrified newlywed
Here’s my response via video.
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On any issue in marriage, if a husband’s heart motives are pure and he’s not asking you to sin, then biblically you should be submitting to him. (Of course you should be sharing your heart with him!) And as well, I know that Biblical submission is a hard thing to comprehend, but remember, you are ultimately submitting to God and putting your trust in Him.
Live a poured out life for Christ,
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