1. Loved the read, friend. I do want to ask though, what about husband “C”? The one who won’t settle for less than what he wants? I have some friends in that situation and I am sure they would love some advice. Thanks!

  2. Ya, this was a complex post….lots of scenarios! I kinda felt while writing this that women would ask me more questions regarding their specific husbands. 🙂 In fact, I had a reader email me not too long ago about Husband C. I’ll write a post solely on what my Beloved and I had to say to her and her situation.

  3. Excellent post, Jolene. As an older wife I have walked through some of this. My husband,in the past, did not embrace his role as provider, partly because I was so willing to just in and “help” whenever needed and partly because he has no role model in this area. He has changed so much in this area. I needed to change for this to happen. Now daily he tells me how much he like providing for me and seeing joy in my eyes.
    God is good.

  4. Great post Jolene, I am sure that many wives will be ministered to by this! I always enjoy reading what you write! I am so glad the Lord called you to serve in this area as hard as it must be sometimes to get all your thoughts onto paper. But the Lord always leads, right?! Blessings to you and your family!

  5. Um, yep, it was hard to get all my thoughts down yesterday, especially since I spent time at Urgent Care and then left with an antibiotic shot in my rear! Then came home and took 2 antibiotic pills and cough syrup that makes one drowsy. It’s a miracle that this post got finished!! God is always faithful, though. Hopefully what was written will minister to many.

  6. Thanks for sharing your journey Jan. I think it is so important for other wives to see that they are not alone in a situation like this. What a blessing to see that your husband made a change, but like you said, you changed!

  7. The question was still not completely answered. What if you are on the brink of financial ruin, you are newly pregnany (in 2nd trimester), and you’re husband sleeps until noon every day, eats when he is up, plays video games until 3-4am, and says “I honestly don’t know what we would do without you working.” I am fed up. I want a change now. We don’t have the money to pay any bills starting in March. That includes the mortgage. Do I kick him out?

    1. He is commanded by God to work. Therefore, he needs to grow up and get a job. Apparently life has been too easy for him to provide for his family. When the electricity gets turned off and he has no food to eat, then perhaps the pain will be great enough for him to get a job.

      1. Thanks for your response. I have decided to let some things slip like the mortgage, etc. Should I continue to work and support him?

        1. I can’t answer your specific question, but I can tell you that my husband has said that the more you support him the less he’ll need to grow up, step up, and get a job.

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