1. I would add, become an expert on your husband’s particular type/s of abuse so that you know how to identify it, respond in effective ways, and protect yourself.

    Also, become an expert on your own problems that you need to fix, nothing will give you as much clarity.

    Marital counseling is often not helpful or productive in situations of abuse because the abusive spouse tends to lie and turn the focus of counseling around onto the victim. Getting counseling by yourself, for your own problems is always a good thing to do, but if marital counseling isn’t helping, then it’s OK to protect yourself and end it.

  2. This post is such a blessing and I hope that it blesses many other women. Your blog is such a resource for and I hope that it uplifts and encourages all who visit in some way.

    Thanks for the opportunity to linkup today, Jolene. I hope you are blessed by the Lord today. Thanks for living a poured out life. What a wonderful way of putting it. That always encourages me to live my life poured out too….sometimes I can get weary of living poured out and just seeing your signature encourages me to keep on keeping on.

  3. Two really, really good books on living in difficult marriages are 1) Joy McClain’s Waiting For His Heart (in the middle of it right now and I’m amazed at how she was able to persevere and depend on Christ for literally everything; her husband was deeply addicted to alcohol and became physically dangerous to her and her children) and 2) Lara Williams’ To Walk or Stay (written by a woman whose husband committed adultery, but the book is about her growth during that time, not about his sins, so it’s good for any difficult marital situation)

  4. As a wife who is currently working on a marriage that abusive (physically, mentally, verbally, emotionally… including police calls and jail time for husband…) I recommend the marriage ministry Joel Kathy Davisson (www.joelandkathy.com). We tried counseling, various programs… even jail didn’t get it through to him that he was in the wrong. But this did (and still is!)

    A blog I haven’t updated in quite a documents of our journey… www. Stillgettingstarted.WordPress.com if anyone cares to read 🙂

    1. I tried to read your blog but couldn’t get past the first post. It is wonderful that you are able to homeschool your children, but your post was incredibly offensive to people who can’t or choose not to do the same. If you want to drive people to your blog, I would be more considerate with the way you write your messages.

  5. This is such a difficult problem, and one that I’ve never had to deal with. But I have known women who stayed in difficult marriages and somehow thrived in their own spirits because of their relationship with the Lord. I think those women will receive a special crown in heaven for their faith.
    Would love to have you link up to my new link party, Jolene.

  6. Advice for a wife living in a difficult marriage is to seek out marriage mentors. And by that, I don’t mean people who “talk” about how to restore a marriage so it “works” but a couple who have a truly happy and loving marriage who can help walk beside you and show you the things you might be doing wrong and what you could be doing so you can make a huge leap in your marriage. The challenge with so many marriage counselors is they, themselves, don’t have a great marriage. The key is finding someone actually living out the type of marriage you desire yourself.

  7. For women married to alcoholics I’ve found this ministry blog: michelllisaanderson.com really helpful. It has become a great community of support!! Everyone “gets” the Jeckyl and Hyde husband. I will also look up those posted and the books referenced Thank you for your blog community as well.

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