5 Biblical Essentials to Protect Your Heart from Growing Bitter
My tired and overwhelmed body had just two boxes left to unpack. I was so thankful they were tiny. Written on them in my handwriting, read, “Framed Photos”. Not giving any thought to the contents inside, I opened them up.
Each small frame I took out displayed a photo of a small face. Photos I hadn’t seen in years. One photo was of me and Eric as newlyweds- so happy and not a care in the world. Other photos were of my sons when they were babies and toddlers. And now they are 14 and 15 years old.
My life and their life flashed before my eyes when I saw those photos. I packed that box back in 2009 and haven’t unpacked it until now. Back then my life was in full blown financial ruin and I was on the road to cancer. It was a tough time with tougher memories.
The trials have come to an end but the memories are still there.
As the unexpected tears welled up in my eyes, I mourned our losses. The loss of my health, the loss of our time, the loss of our home and business, the loss of relationships, the loss of our dreams.
I was emotionally overwhelmed with what I saw. Those photos represented years of walking through what seemed like a desert wasteland of my life.
The memories of all my health treatments flooded my mind. The pain and the suffering.
All the years of uncertainty coupled with fear as I looked out toward our future. The moving and packing and moving again.
Hot tears flooded my eyes and ran down my cheeks….
And the negative emotions filled my mind.
Ms. Bitterness and Hard-Heart were camping outside at the door of my heart waiting for me to invite them in. And I could hear Ms. Angry and Self-Pity chattin’ right behind them. The four of them were beckoning me to welcome them into my soul.
I didn’t fight back the tears when I saw the photos, and I’m not fighting them back now as I share this story with you because honestly, I have bigger battles to fight, namely, my sin.
The sin of bitterness, a hard-heart, anger, and self-pity. These are all emotions that do nothing for me or for the body of Christ. And because I was made by Him and for Him, I need to deal with my feelings and move on because the Lord wants to use me.
Of course it is okay to mourn loss, but for me to welcome harmful emotions to take root in my heart is like putting out a welcome mat that says, “Satan, please deprive my soul of all future joy and hope.”
Now, I don’t know about you, but this is not the type of Christian woman I want to become. I don’t want to live life in a defeated state and I don’t want to live life without purpose.
If you know grief like I do, we’re in good company because Jesus knew grief, too.
He is despised and rejected by men, a Man of sorrows and acquainted with grief. Isaiah 53:3
Now, if you and I were sitting across from one another at a table chatting, I would speak these words to your soul…
You are not alone in your pain. You may feel alone, but you’re not. Jesus is with you. Walking with you. And He’ll never leave your side.
Christ will take your mess and turn it into a masterpiece. Just let go of the control and fear and let Him lead you.
For I am about to do something new. See, I have already begun! Do you not see it? I will make a pathway through the wilderness. I will create rivers in the dry wasteland. Isaiah 43:19 (NLT)
5 Biblical Essentials to Protect Your Heart from Growing Bitter
1. Hold on to hope.
God knows your pain, after all, He is the one allowing it in your life. Don’t rule Him out of your situation. It is in His nature to do miracles. Watch and wait for the miracles to unfold.
But I will hope continually, And will praise You yet more and more. Psalm 71:14
2. Cling to joy.
It’s easy to experience joy when life is smooth sailing and peachy keen. But when it’s not, you’ve got to seek out joy and the only place you’ll find it is by abiding in Christ.
But let all those rejoice who put their trust in You; Let them ever shout for joy, because You defend them; Let those also who love Your name be joyful in You. Psalm 5:11
3. Be a vessel that He can use so you can pour out into the lives of others.
A self-centered vessel doesn’t do much good for the Kingdom of God. And if you, the vessel, happen to pour out tears in the process, that’s okay. Your tears show that you’re a real human being. Others can relate to your hurting heart.
But the Lord said to him, “Go, for he is a chosen vessel of Mine to bear My name before Gentiles, kings, and the children of Israel. Acts 9:15
4. Speak the Word of God into your own soul and into the souls of others.
Scripture soothes a sorrowful or fearful soul, and it magnifies the Lord in the process.
5. Who are you here for? Who do you live for?
Ask yourself these questions everyday and they will determine your focus and priorities. Your answers will determine your heart motive and your heart motive will determine whether or not you’ll give bitterness a place to reside in your soul.
Lift His name even in the midst of your pain. When you do this, your heart (emotions) won’t have time to feed on the weed of bitterness.
Trials are designed to make us better not bitter. Being that God is a gentleman, He gives you and I free will in which path to take. Choose wisely, saint. Choose wisely.
Live a poured out life for Christ,
Jolene
Hello Jolene, I recall from your previous posts that you had to perforce move out of your home and were temporarily living out of boxes in friends’ homes. So, I am delighted to see this post from you once again, talking about the very things that I can identify with as my journey somewhat mirrors yours…….Be blessed my dear sister in Christ.
Shikainah,
London, UK
Jolene, it is nice to hear from you! I am very happy to hear that you are settling in to a place you can call home. Thank you for the timely and uplifting message this morning. Words cannot express the gratitude I am feeling after reading these spiritual principles. I needed to hear and be reminded that temptation can come in many forms. We must resist and keep our focus on God. Thank you again.
Sending you and your family blessings of joy,
Nancy
As the spirit of the Lord works within us, we become more and more like Him and reflect His glory even more. 2 Cor. 3:18b
Blessings in this transition time, Sister!
the Lord ministered to my spirit. thank you.
Jolene, it’s so nice to see you back up and on line again ! Probably still in boxes — but give yourself some time to get set up . God is with you (and your guardian angels too) to help you in this
little messy trial you face of uprooting homes! I so remember it
when we had to move in the 1990s — it’s all that extra stress, but
it’s good to clean out at those times of one’s life. Take care of #1 (you) and I’ll keep you in prayers.
Jolene i’m inspired by your message, and that I’m not alone. I feel hopeful. Im dealing with similar housing circumstances. Currently living in a hotel (due to lay off) until job opportunities come through for myself and husband. Its been a difficult and painful 6mos. Recently ive started meditating on Psalm 23. Its helping to deal with the bitterness and anger at of loss of time, finances these past 6yrs. Im praying that we will have breakthrough and that all that was lost will be restored in Jesus Name.
I am very happy for you and your family getting settled in your new home. I am so thankful for you using your testimony as ministry to myself and others. However I have to disagree with part of point one… I would not blame God for the pain we experience. I know you may go back to Job or something, well a new discovery to me, thanks to a great teaching by Todd White… until Jesus stated in John 10:10 “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.” They blamed God for everything instead of having an awareness of our enemy Satan. Jesus never walked away and left someone in pain telling them God wants them to learn something from it. Granted this doesn’t cancel Romans 8:28. But just because Jesus uses it doesn’t mean He approves it.
I believe Jesus paid a high price, not only for our salvation but also for our healing. Isaiah 53:5 But He was wounded for our transgressions,
He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Also I Peter 2:24 who Himself bore our sins in His own body on the tree, that we, having died to sins, might live for righteousness—by whose stripes you were healed.
Yes we have a sovereign God but He is not a puppetmaster. Thanks to His sovereignty we do not die every time we sin and He did intercede on Job’s and many of our behalf, telling Satan he couldn’t kill him. But, unfortunately for a time (Eph 6:12 ) For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age,[a] against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places.
Thank you Jesus, He hasn’t left us powerless but has given us the Holy Spirit and His authority and His Word to take authority over these powers at work and we know who wins in the end!!!!!