·

Becoming One with Your Man & a Marital Oneness Monday Link Up

As a former woman at the well, with sin in this skin…
I’ve never known a love like this.
A blood-spilled love.
A love that covers a multitude of sins.
A Perfect Love that cast out fears.
When HE became my Bridegroom, HE took up residence in my heart and it is there that I gave HIM access to my vault; those dark, forbidden places where you let no one in, but now my spirit welcomes HIM knowing that the unconditional love and healing will begin.  And I will walk with HIM, hand in hand, from now until all eternity.
No, I’ve never known a love like this.  A trusting love.  A transparent love.  A vulnerable love.  A love that is intertwined with my soul.
And yet, HE calls me to connect and intertwine my soul to another; to become one with the one I exchanged my vows with and gave my life and body to–
To become one with him, my earthly groom.
But what does that look like?  How does that happen? How do two people become one flesh?  Came the thoughts of a young bride.
one+flesh+copy
It’s through a wild and relentless pursuit…
Of knowing HIM and him.
Of following HIM and him.
Of studying HIM and him.
Of respecting HIM and him.
And submitting to HIM and him.
Learning to fall in love with both of them over and over again, day in and day out, in spite of living through the torrential financial storms, walking through this life with a broken body, dealing with the attacks against our family and having my faith weakened.
It is there in the downright difficult life, where I clench my fists tightly to HIS robe and I take HIM at HIS Word knowing that all things work together for our good.  And when life interrupts and the enemy seeks to rip apart that which God has brought together, I do my part to protect our oneness at all costs.
And both my hands now hold each one of theirs.
And both of them have my heart.  “Please be careful with it, I whisper to them.  It’s been through a lot.  It’s been broken and it’s fragile.”
And when I look HIM in HIS eyes, I see HIS love for me.
A love so deep.
A love full of forgiveness.
A love covered in grace.
A love undeserved.
And it is because of HIS poured out love for me that I do my best to have a deep love for him.
Learning to love him with a love full of forgiveness and covered in grace enables us to have…
A trusting love.
A vulnerable love.
A transparent love.
A love where two souls become one.
“For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one.”  Ephesians 5:31,32
It’s a love where one flesh is intertwined with the Spirit.

Tips to Making More Oneness with Your Man

    1. Here’s a simple one–  take his last name.  This show’s HIM and him your honor and respect.  (It’s the leaving and cleaving principle that we need to be reminded of in today’s culture.)

 

  • Trust him.

 

 

  • Let him lead you as you let HIM lead your man.

 

 

  • Let go of all bitterness.

 

 

 

 

  • Be vulnerable.

 

 

 

 

  • Take HIM at HIS Word.

 

 

Now it’s your turn.  What are some of your tips?

Live a poured out life for the Master,

E346E1695E31E76211E74AFCF9232E49
Did you enjoy reading The Alabaster Jar?
Subscribe through email or ‘like’ my page on Facebook to receive future posts.
I have a passion for marriage so I invite you to join me every Monday for this link-up! Please share your post on any and all things related to being a wife, i.e. homemaking ideas, ways you minister to your husband, dating ideas, and/or hearing what the Lord is telling you about your most important earthly relationship!
1. Please link to your actual “Marital Oneness Mondays” post, not just your general blog address–that way if readers come by later in the week, they can click your relevant post.
2. If you are new to this link up, please leave me a comment so I can visit you at your site and follow you there!
3. Try to visit others in this community to offer encouragement as they use their gifts to minister to others in the name of our Lord – plus, you might just hear God speak to you over there!
4. Do me a favor and spread the word about this link up as well.
5. Link back to this community, either by using the button below or a text link.   You can find the button code here for you to insert in your post:
The Alabaster Jar
The Alabaster Jar

Pin34
Share
Tweet
34 Shares

Similar Posts

28 Comments

  1. Jolene,

    I am so thankful for your blog and am very excited that you have decided to start this link up encouraging strengthening marriages…thank you for hosting. I believe that as Christian wives we can always be striving to learn more and striving to “better ourselves” as helpmates for our husbands. I appreciate your story as well (I read in the past)…I just recently did a short “mini series on love and marriage”, and linked up one of the post from it…

    Thanks for your encouragement to strengthen marriages,

    Erin @ Chronic Christian Crafter

  2. Hi Jolene – Monday is a great time to focus on our marriages, plan ahead for the week, temper our responses. I am so glad I found your blog.
    God bless
    Tracy

  3. Embrace his strengths and help to fill in the weak areas, just as you would like him to do for you.
    It is all about extending love and forgiveness and especially undeserved grace, because none of us are perfect.

  4. Hi Jolene,
    I loved this post, especially where you talk about maintaining a oneness in marriage, even in the times when circumstances: health, finances, detractors, could very easily pull you apart. I have read in the past your convictions on staying at home to be a wife, mother, and homemaker and I appauld you for so overtly stating your beliefs backed by His word on this controversial issue. I recently read on another blog that I admire that author (a keeper at home) would not go to work unless her family was being faced with being on welfare. I have seen many close friends and family face this situation: the family facing public benefits as their only seeming option unless the wife decides to work outside of the home. Perhaps with today’s economy, money is the number one thing that drives a wedge between couples. How would you advise a Christian family contemplating going on welfare or having the wife go to work (assuming the husband was physically capable of working)? So many in our community are against government handouts, and for good reason. But this seems like a relevant issue to so many I love without a clear answer. Could you shed some light on what you would do in this situation?

  10. Hi Felicity,
    I just LOVE your question! I will address it in a blog post that I am working on right now. Hopefully I can complete it soon but tonight my Beloved and I will be taping our radio show regarding Resolving Conflict Part 2!
    Thanks friend for your encouraging words. They blessed my heart!
    ~jolene

  11. Hi Rina,
    Thanks for stopping by! For it being my first link-up, so far the turn out is not too bad! May God be glorified with whatever goes on with this blog! Glad you enjoyed my post!
    Blessings to you,
    ~jolene

  15. Good morning! I found you through the Titus 2 link up. I don’t have an article to link here exactly, but I wanted to say thank you for such a lovely essay. Your parallels and encouragements are just perfect. Have a wonderful day!
    XO

  18. Jolene, I’m very excited about this link-up! In a world of husband bashing it is refreshing to be able to read and write about GOD’S view of marriage…that we are ONE in spirit before our Lord.

    My suggestion for building marital oneness is to pray together OFTEN. And I mean more than just the “bless so-and-so” prayers. Real, deep, worshipful prayer. Prayer is such a very intimate thing and when we participate in this spiritual intimacy with one we should be intimate with emotionally and physically, it draws us deeper TOGETHER into the heart of God.

  19. Jolene,
    Such a beautiful & inspiring post. I’m so blessed to have found you today (via holy experience). Thank you so much.
    Julie

  20. You’re so right about God being the focus and center of our marriages, if we are ever to achieve oneness. Great thoughts here, Jolene!

  26. Building and maintaining strong marriage is a passion of mine! So glad to have found this link-up! What an encouragement! Thank you!!

  27. Thank you so much for the wise counsel you give to women married and unmarried that hope to be married one day for I am one such woman. I come from a divorced household therefore I seek advice and direction through blogs and women that are older than me. Thank you so much for your ministry. I pray that you know you are helping shape women like me who do not have many godly role models to look to in their own lives. Thank you so so much. God bless you and your family !!!

Comments are closed.