How to Restore Your Marriage After You’ve Been a Horrible Wife
I sat at my desk one afternoon listening to the voice messages wives have left me asking for biblical guidance about their marriages. After I had listened to each story, my eyes welled up with tears as I heard their disappointment and heartache. Oh, how I wish I could sit down with every woman who shares her story with me, but this is not possible. Instead, it’s why I do this podcast.
One woman left me a message sharing how she’s been a horrible wife to her husband for many years, and now she wants to restore their relationship. However, her man seems to be unresponsive to her efforts.
When two sinners come together in marriage, feelings will get hurt because there is no such thing as a perfect wife or a perfect husband, only a perfect Savior.
So, the question is, how does a wife rebuild her marriage after she has spent several years tearing it down?
Click below to hear my response.
Scripture Reference:
And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not to men. Colossians 3:23
Related podcast episode: Dealing with a Hard & Cold Heart in Marriage
Live a poured out life for Christ,
Jolene Engle
Please, I have a relationship and we are very close to each other, but the issue is this, am the only one supporting the relationship intempt of financial income what should I do.
Hi Barob,
I’m so sorry to hear about your situation. Ask yourself if you want to be the main breadwinner as a wife or if you’d like your future husband to have this role. If you don’t want to be the main breadwinner as a girlfriend, then chances are you probably don’t want to be the main breadwinner when you’re married. But that is the path you’re on based on the guy you’re with. If I were in this situation, I’d tell him to get a job or a get a new girlfriend because I’m done paying his way. I hope this helps!
Is there a mens version of this?
Hi Scott,
No, I don’t have a men’s version of this podcast. But based on the amount of emails I have received on this topic, my husband and I will probably record one.
Hi 6 yrs ago we weren’t saved when we married. 5 mos after marriage I was with a person. After finding out hubby was & still is now with many people. Almost 3 yrs ago when he came back I asked him to 4 give me. I used 2 curse b him soo bad b4 salvation. I felt soo bad when I listened 2 the recordns I’m ashamed. But that’s nothing compared 2 the words I still get. When it’s time 4 sex I give it 2 him cause I’m his wife. He don’t pay bills or anything. I try often 2 respect him. At times is hard I see him like we’re sneakn & cheating. Like I haven’t seen him at all this month. He does get anointed with blessd oil each time he wants sex. I keep food & beverages in our home. But he brings his own liquor cause I refuse 2 furnish that. The worse I call him now is jackbutt. I know I shouldn’t. He has a home 2 live in a good CHRISTIAN wife but that’s not where he chooses 2 b. I do all the things a wife should meals in bed clean house clothes, I warfare pray over him utilities stay on. All without his help. I did get mad enough 2 put him on cheaters websites. Man was he mad when some 1 told him. Calld me out of my name 1st time in 5. 1/2 yrs. Divorce runs rampid in my family. Hes been divorced @ least once. Hes sleepn with girls who go 2 church. But ain’t saved. I love him the reason I married him. I’m standing on GODs word but @ times get weary! I do realize it’s the hand of Satan. When I was in the world my men were with me every night. So imagine tell GOD u won’t sleep with any 1 until ur married2 them & honoring it till married. I know no 1 can tell me because I don’t know either. But when is it time 2 just walk away?? I have a friend who tried 2 hook me up with 4diff relatives & friends in church she knew. But the only man I want is my husband. I’m uncovered in many ways. I stay on the net listening 2 marriage warfare prayers & sermons 2 stay encouraged. What am I doing wrong???
I needed this today, thank you. Will you e-mail me….please. when you get time.