If You’re Pure or Not Before Marriage

Oh how I wish I could go back to that night when I was 16 yrs. old and just say no. Knowing that would allow me to give my husband the gift that belonged to him and him alone. Oh how I wish, but I can’t.  And because of my poor choices, my husband has had to share me with others. Now let me be quite frank…no wife wants to feel like she has to compete with the memories that her husband has from being s*xually involved with other women, and I’m sure no husband wants to compete with the memories his wife has from being with other men.  It’s not how God designed marriage and it’s a lot to overcome.  But of course with Jesus you can overcome anything.  But just know that it’s not a cake-walk.

Yet in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us.  Romans 8:37

Sin to your physical body wreaks a whole lot of havoc on so many different levels.

When you go outside of the Word of God and take matters into your own hands regarding pre-marital s*x, be prepared to experience some of the following:

If You’re Pure Today…

Remain pure.  I know that doesn’t sound easy, but it’s a lot easier than dealing with the consequences of sin.  Here are a few tips to help you:

• Be fully committed to being obedient to Christ and what His word says.  Don’t waver when it comes to this area of your life.  Remain a virgin until your wedding night.  I can not stress this enough!
• Be wise and don’t put yourself in a compromising situation.  Don’t hang out alone with just your man because temptation will come knocking on your door sooner than you know it.
• If you’ve got a so-called godly guy pressuring you in the areas of s*xually-related activities, remove yourself from the relationship because a ‘godly’ man wouldn’t intentionally want to grieve the Lord.   It’s one thing to fight your fleshly temptations when it comes to pre-marital s*x, but it’s altogether different when you’re getting pressure from a man to sin against God.

If Your Virginity Was Taken From You…

Unfortunately, I realize this is a reality for some.  We live in a fallen world where free will is given to every person under the sun and sometimes we encounter evil people that do horrific things to others.  If your virginity was taken from you, dear friend, know that the Lord is with you and covering you. And when the time comes for Jesus to send you your future husband, rest assured that Christ has a special one chosen just for you.  One that will embrace you, care for you, nurture you and love you immensely.  Don’t allow the Enemy to condemn you or blame you for your situation because he is just speaking lies into your life.

And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.  Romans 8:28

If You Gave Yourself Away…

Now if you gave yourself away then start over and remain pure until marriage.  Yes, this is possible; not easy, but possible!  Remember that He has covered you in His blood, He has cleansed you, and redeemed you.  Plus, you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you.

I personally wrestled with my past s*xual sins for quite some time.  I had a very difficult time getting over them even though I knew that Jesus washed me clean.  Here’s a verse that I clung to:

Forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead.  Philippians 3:13

‘Forgetting’ was the key word that helped me to overcome my past. This was a verse that I had to repeat in my mind over and over again.

If you allow Christ to have complete access to your heart and you’re committed to pleasing Him, He’ll restore you as well, my friend!  Just have faith.

Oh, and on my wedding day….the bride wore white….  Why yes, yes I did, because I was washed clean by the blood of the Lamb and I was now whiter than snow!  And I also ate my wedding cake as fast as I could so I could leave immediately for my honeymoon. wink! Honest to goodness this is a true story!

If You’re In Sexual Sin Today…

Get out of it!
Stay out of habitual and unrepentant sin because it will hinder your fellowship with God. And once you’re no longer living a life of fornication, just start over and remain pure until marriage.  Remember that God is a God of second chances.

So if you’ve been following my Smitten for Him Single’s Series then you know that today it has come to an end with this post. I realize that many of my readers are already married, so my encouragement to you would be to pour into the lives of others about this very important topic.  Whether it is your own children, grandchildren, co-workers, friends, etc. Extend yourself to be that older woman, that Titus 2 woman, willing to teach and share with others so they can start their marriages off on the right biblical foundation.  By doing so, you’re strengthening their future marriage!